“A pupil points a finger. A teacher is fired, his life rerouted. Now can they be buddies?”
The long winded title of an article we had to read for class on Friday (February 13th). I was asked to leave because I didn’t have any questions, thus was unprepared for class. Here’s the kicker: I still don’t have any “well thought out” questions for such an article after two days of stewing over it. I felt the article covered everything I could think of outside of personal questions for Mr. Kaplowitz and his former student, Raynard. Pretty sure we weren’t supposed to delve into the personal business and keep it strictly professional. If we were able to delve into personal things, then it should’ve been stated so. Because I could ask a ton of those based on this article (that I found, personally, ridiculous).
Why’d I find it ridiculous? Because it is. A student accuses an instructor of something he didn’t do; i.e. pushing the student to the floor and making him hit his head when ushering him out of a classroom. Instructor gets fired and sued for it. Years later, former student sends friend request on Facebook and wants to get in touch with his former teacher.
All ended in forgiveness and what-not but I still…don’t have questions to ask. Except for maybe a few things.
1.) Why would you forgive someone that cost you your job?
Maybe it’s just me and I’m not such a forgiving person. I may say I forgive you but I won’t ever forget how you wronged me and I will be less likely to trust you in the future, but seriously. If you cost me my job because of false accusations, I ended up in a depressive funk for multiple years, and was avoided by other people because they knew what I supposedly “did”, then like hell I’d actually forgive you. And I doubt I’d want anything to do with you years later after I finally got my life back together. Time doesn’t heal all wounds and just because water is flowing under the bridge again doesn’t mean I’m inclined to ‘forgive and forget’. Perhaps I’m just spiteful like that.
2.) Why would you falsely accuse someone like that?
Okay, so your teacher ushered you out and gave you a gentle shove out of the classroom and slammed the door behind you. So what? He never pushed anyone to the ground and caused them to hit their head. The teacher was at the end of his rope—children misbehaving left and right and one child constantly irritating him with the well-known excuse to go to the bathroom just to get out of class. It’s obvious that it’s all been done before and when the teacher lets you go so they can try to regain control of the class, then just fucking go. Get out of the classroom and shut the hell up. Don’t get upset because he slammed the door behind you. He’s just as frustrated as you if not more-so. Then again, as a second grader (I believe was the grade?), then okay. Getting emotional about someone being mad at you is understandable, but to lie about what your instructor did is not. That man lost his job because of that lie.
But I guess that’s just the world we live in now.
“Oh no, you put your hand on my child! I’m going to sue you for sexual harassment / abuse!”
“Uh, ma’am, I pat your child on the head, that’s not—”
“SEXUAL HARASSMENT!”
“I only gave them a gentle nudge to step forward. That’s—”
“ABUSE! I’LL HAVE YOUR JOB!”
Man pours milk on kid. It’s childishly beautiful.
Parents hover over their children day-in and day-out. Any form of contact with another person could lead to charges of abuse, sexual harassment, or just plain harassment. Words towards another person’s child could end up as the aforementioned thing. Everyone is just too paranoid about, well, everything. And parents are willing to hang on every word their child says, even if their child has a history of causing trouble or acting out in school or whatever. Didn’t they say that there were no signs of injury to the kid? Yeah. Red flag, wouldn’t you think? Wouldn’t it cross your mind that maybe the kid is lying? Of course not, he was such a good boy and no one’s child could possibly ever do any wrong.
And…okay, y’know what? I’m done talking about this; before I go onto a tangent about people and their bratty ass children and how parents need to discipline them once in a while.
Anyway, water under the bridge and those two are friends now. Good for them! I’m glad they could all sort it out and it worked out A-OK in the end for both of them. Fantastic. Even if I don’t agree with the whole ordeal and how it all went down from the accusations, to the trial, to even their friendship later down the road. But, really, that’s just me and how I can and will hold grudges. Especially if you fucked me over.
Oh. Would you look at that. I still don’t have three questions. Two is better than none at least. Even if they are personal and not well thought out.